In my Member’s Only Success Coaching group this month, we are discussing “Empowering Relationships”. Relationships with yourself, with others, and with change. All of these relationships in your life have their place and will either empower or disempower you, depending on whether you’re intentionally controlling them or letting them control you.
Intentionally nurturing and developing your relationships involves taking an honest look at where you are and making a plan to close the gap between your current reality and where you want to be.
Your ability to create, maintain and nurture meaningful and empowering relationships is a measure of your capacity to establish connection, rapport, and intimacy with another human being.
There are 7 principles of relating that you can use to increase this capacity and thereby develop a greater closeness and connection with those around you:
- Be willing to Risk
- Be Available
- Be more Interested than Interesting
- Be who you are
- Don’t make assumptions
- Accept without condition
Think about each of these 7 principles and ask yourself, “How well do I currently apply this principle to my relationship with myself AND with other people?” Think about what may need to change or happen for you to be able to apply this principle without reservation. What could be possible in your life if each of these habits were as natural as breathing?
To make any lasting change, it takes simply getting started, taking baby steps, and pushing through the excuses. Just being consciously aware of these principles in all of your realtionships with create shift. The more you practice, the more habitual it becomes.
I love this picture of my sister-in-law, one of best girlfriends and me on a wine tour in Napa Valley. Love these girls!
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Love and Success!
Lori
Do you “help” out even when it’s not really your problem? I think we have all done this in our lives. Whether you are dealing with children, a spouse, clients, or co-workers, isn’t it easier sometimes to just do the task at hand for them because you are better or faster at it? Or maybe you feel like something is simply expected of you, because you have always done it, and apparently that means you’ll always do it.
By taking on the little “extra’s” through out the day adds up to a whole lot of extra time and work for you! And does it really groom the other person to be responsible for their own actions? Of course not.
Whether you are letting your child learn a lesson by completing something (the “wrong way”), or putting a task back on the person who asked you to do, you are taking control of your own actions, not letting overwhelm come into play and allowing the other person to learn along the way. So next time you are asked to do something (or think you need to jump in and “save the day”), stop and think, “am I really doing the other person justice by taking over?”
Knowing when to say no, and letting someone else do their own task, is an important “Save Your Sanity” skill. Give it shot, you’ll be surprised how good you feel, and how much more productive your day is when you’re not “saving the day”!
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